Client says "I don't see anything" in a session…
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Client says "I don't see anything" in a session…
From a 2011 post of mine on the DC side…
This is so very common, and it absolutely happens quite often in sessions. If it has not happened to you yet, rest assured that it will and you should have a plan.
The following was originally posted by me on the “old yahoo group” in September of 2011.
The client starts the session seeing only darkness.
me- “What do you see or sense?”
client ” I see nothing at all. Its totally Dark.”
What would you do next?
Here is what I have learned, not to do.
First and foremost do not allow your mind or your emotions as a facilitator get in the way of what is going on with your client! This is really critical. You may, especially as a new practitioner, begin a silent mental/ego internal conversation such as “Oh no, she is not seeing anything, what do I do? This client will be hard. She can’t see anything, This is session is going to be difficult.”
Please do not do this. It is entirely not helpful. Tell your ego to go sit in the corner! Because this is what is talking and it will not be helpful to you or your client, and begins to set the intention/vibration of not seeing anything…. do not do this.
You might do as I do, think of the situation of “Not seeing” as a wonderful thing.
Yes, it is a wonderful beginning, Its a blank canvas.
Anything could happen from this place!The next thing I do is something very simple, but it took me a while to learn how to do this. I tell the client (of course) all is well, and she is doing fine. Then I tell her the longer she remains there in that place, the more she will learn about where exactly she is, and what is happening. So I just give her some TIME to acclimate. There is a pause in the session.
Just sit there with your client and wait a little bit. So simple to be quiet a little bit. But, in my opinion So crucial. Don’t be in a giant hurry to ask a dozen more questions!
This is very simple, but perhaps some of you might not be doing this. Simply waiting a minute or two, even just 30 seconds, BEFORE asking more and more questions, needing answers right away, gives the client the opportunity to have other sensory information come through. The next bit of information that came through was that she was in a “smooth” place. It was still dark.
I say, slowly and without hurry, “Oh that’s interesting. You feel smoothness in this place. Hmmmmmmmm”
Then WAIT some more.
The next bit was: “Oh, I think I am very small.”
Repeat again:
“Hmmm. So you are in a dark, smooth place, and you are very small. Hmmmmmm. Okay”
So, bit by bit, as this information came through, it built upon the last piece and suddenly, her face changed and she realized where and what she was experiencing in a much bigger way.
She was a consciousness held within a teardrop shaped SEED. From this place she had a marvelous, amazing experience feeling the energy of the ground below her, the dirt above her, the sun, the moisture and the energy of her consciousness experiencing life itself beginning, and how all of those things were connected, how she felt connected and how she felt the spark ignite, the generation of life itself as she opened up to the sky and planet she was on.
Hope this helps!
Love, Candace
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6 Replies
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Thank you for the helpful tip Candace, as I feel this response can be very common at times. Thank you!!
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I had a similar experience with a man several years ago. He got nothing, nothing. After a bit, when I was about to give up, he said when I meditate I try to get here – to nothing and now I’m here. That clued me in and so, I said to him, “Just be with that nothingness.” Then after a minute or so I said “Have that nothingness form the clue that you need.” Off he went and never had any problem after. He had some ASTOUNDING sessions after a while.
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Here are some other tricks you could use. When client is in total darkness, you don’t know whether it is because they are in a dark room or in space, or they reached perfect thought-less state, and the goal for you as a practitioner is to find out where are they.
I ask questions in this order so that they can first sense themselves, then the environment:
– If you were to touch your body, what would you feel?
– Can you grab your palms and feel them?
– If you were to touch the floor, what would it feel like?
– If you were to move in any direction, could you feel yourself moving?
– If you look closely in this darkness, is it equally dark everywhere or are there different intensities or shades of darkness?In most cases, some of these questions produce YES answer and we find out that client is in dark room, coffin, or dark forest, in space, or just some kind of energy being, and then we start exploring what’s going on.
If I reach this point without finding out anything, then I use this situation for deepening the client. Note what Candace said, because if you feel that session is failing, this feeling will be transferred to the client. Instead feel relaxed, and add a bit of enthusiasm for this next part. I say to the client something like this:
Me: No thoughts come to you now, right?
Client: Right!
Me: Wow, Perfect! This is great! Many people try to get into this state for years with meditation and you’re in it now continuously. There are no noisy thoughts in your mind right now. This means that you’re now perfectly connected with yourself, and any thought that comes up from now on is from your Higher Self.
Take a few moments to enjoy this state of having perfect connection since this is something that most people rarely experience. Take a few deep relaxing breaths and enjoy this state of perfect stillness.
(Then proceed with contacting the Higher Self)I hope you can add some of these ideas to your toolbox 🙂
Namaste
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Hey Candace!
Thanks for this. I have had many sessions like this, and in the beginning of my practice, I was desperately asking questions. That worked to some extent, but you are so right about giving the person time to discover through their unique way of perceiving, because using the “seeing” tool might not be the one that brings the needed awareness of what’s going on.Also as the session is always in the flow or in motion, things morph and emerge. It is so important to keep our mental emergency brake off and enjoy the session with certainty and trust that what you’ve asked for (when you intend the session to bring exactly what they need – as I always do when I do my affirmations about any up-coming session in the days before the session) will occur.
I remember one of my own sessions where it saw nothing, but I quickly learned that a sense or awareness of something towering above me like a wall made me look up, and it was the wall of a gorge. As I looked down I was next to the river flowing through it and realized I was holding a leather water bag, and a feeling of extreme sadness and grief emerged. From there I realized I was an 8 year old native boy on an excursion with my older sister who had fallen. I was getting water for her in the pouch and she was about to die. All this occurred as soon as I followed the feeling of a wall upward until I saw the sky.
Also George, I loved that suggestion to “let the darkness or nothingness form the clue that you need”.
Thank you again for such a helpful post! You guys are awesome. I wish I could press the awesome button more than once! Maybe you can add that as a feature to the Forum posts!!!
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This advise is very helpful! Thank you to everyone who shared!❤️
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Thanks Candace for bringing this old post forward, and everyone for the good suggestions. This has happened to me a few times already, and a couple of times, after all my questions, the client still found it a beautiful, peaceful state of nothingness and no desire to leave it. No body, no lightbody. No light. I’ve wondered what it was: Nirvana? Some pre-Creation state? A nihilist’s idea of heaven? The Resting Place? Or something not as uplifting? If it is in the nature of consciousness to expand, there seems to be no expansion here, just quiet.
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